You don't have to be Mary,

...to be a virgin.


This image is from this week's Post Secret.

Is making "your first time" having sex special overrated?

I think in some aspects, yes.
Can you remember the age, place, date, person of your first time?
I can, but many cannot remember all of those details.

Is it always special, meaningful, and with someone you care deeply for?
Mine was not. I can tell you, I knew right from the start he wasn't the one. The situation was completely awkward and slightly embarrassing.
The experience is definitely not always going to be reminiscent of something on a romantic film reel.

The point of this post isn't' for me to pour my heart out or bitch that I had a less than The Notebook sexual experience.

My point is, a lot of people are nervous before their first time. Others just want to get it out of the way in order to gain experience.

When did sex become something you practice? I say be prepared, but I don't mean go pick some random dude from across the party and take him home.

Don't be embarrassed if you are still carrying around your v-card.

The only advice that holds true for anyone is:
-Talk to someone close with you (be it a parent or counselor or friend who you can trust).
-If you decide to have sex, make sure you're comfortable with that decision. You can always back out and not feel bad for doing so. It doesn't matter if his/her pants are off and ready to go. It's about you.
-Have "the talk" with your partner. While getting caught up in the moment may seem steamy and romantic, you need to trust your partner. Further, you need to know what's going on below their waist (STD's, all that good stuff).
-Be safe: Have protection and/or birth control.
-See a doctor prior to and once you become sexually active.

**Remember, everybody is NOT doing it. The last thing you want to do is have regrets.

Sex on the job?

Is that considered prostitution?

I'm going to go with no, unless, perhaps it's your boss. The line in that department can be very thin.

Anyways, is sex at work an issue of ethics? I say not, but this I'm sure is different for every person.

Is it appropriate? Probably not. Then again, a lot of things are inappropriate.

This cheesy video will give you step-by-step how to pursue having sex at work:



Here is the step-by-step advice from the video:

1. Choose your partner carefuly: Dating the boss could ruin your rep. While the video suggests perhaps someone lower, I don't think you need to go necessarily for the dude scraping the gum from under the tables.

2. Keep it a secret: Come to an agreement with your partner.

3. Location, location, location: Find a place where it's not obvious (especially during hours). At the same time, you want to be comfortable.

4. If you're gonna be loud, cover up the sound: Yep, the rest of your co-workers do not need to hear your noises. Simple enough.

5. Get down to business: Do it!

Some other things to remember:
-It's a risk. You could lose your job and reputation. Be prepared with a back-up plan.
-Make sure you know the person well. Trust is important.
-Still be safe. Wear protection.
-Make sure you both want the same thing. Don't go into it expecting a relationship when the other person just wants a good lay.

Straight from Marie Claire magazine.. statistics!
60% OF MC READERS have Slept with a coworker
85% OF YOU HAVE DRESSED TO IMPRESS A CRUSH AT WORK
50% OF YOU HAVE FANTASIZED ABOUT YOUR BOSS
70% OF YOU HAVE GOTTEN OFF THINKING ABOUT A COWORKER
30% OF YOU HAVE HAD A FLING WHILE TRAVELING FOR WORK

Boring Sex?

For those who do not practice abstinence: Your sex life not so fresh?
Regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not, a boring sex life is unhealthy.

So, I'm here to save the day with some website that have different sex positions.


REMEMBER: Stay safe! [scroll down to earlier posts on protecting yourself]! :)

Cosmopolitan: The magazine that has a rep for being jam-packed with all things sex. The website has a special section for different sex positions, with pictures (for those who are visual learners)...
Here is a sample: Click the position name for links to all of the positions!

G-Spot Jiggy


Sex Info 101: This website not only contains the name and description of many sex positions, they are categorized by type and each comes with an animation, making it easier to work out the position.

Men's Health: This website has pictures and descriptions, and may also be more comfortable for males to view.

Women's Health: I believe this site trumps men's health because of the features. You can customize based on who it feels best for, stamina, his size, and your flexibility. It calculates and then a position pops up. Also, something cool is spin to get a position. I clicked it 5 times and kept getting "X-Factor."-- not sure if it changes, let me know!

If you have any good sites or positions, feel free to send them my way!

Enjoy and remember, stay safe!

Safe Sex Series: Protection Part 2

So now you have the down and dirty to putting on a condom.

Part 2 on Protection is making sure the condom is effective.

Putting on the condom properly is important, but without these other tips, it will not keep you safe.

Making sure the condom fits: The condom needs to cover the entire penis and must fit snug. Too tight= breakage and too loose = falling off.

So, 1/2 an inch needs to be left at the top to collect the ejaculate.
Remember, the condom should be snug and comfy. Think skinny jeans!
If the condom isn't long enough to cover the entire shaft, he needs a bigger size.

It may seem picky, but I'm all for being tedious if it prevents STD's and pregnancy!

Location of condoms: Don't rely on the guy to have one. Be sure to have your own stash for a number of reasons.
-He may not have one and insist on not using protection
-He may not have a good condom.

What do I mean by a good condom?
1.Always check the expiration date! Sometimes people will eat food a day or two after the expiration date (ick!). Don't use this rule with condoms. Never use one if it's expired.
2. Make sure it is stored in a dry and cool place.
3. If the package looks torn or damaged, get rid of it.
Remember, when it doubt, throw it out!
4. Do not use condoms that are sticky or discolored.

Places where you should note store a condom:
1. In a wallet. While it's important to keep condoms handy, this convenience isn't safe.
2. On a windowsill
3. In your car, especially the glove compartment. Constant temperature changes (particularly heat from the car) can affect the condom.

Good places for condoms:
1. Uncluttered drawers
2. In a protective case in your purse
3. In a travel bag.
4. In the original packaging (sounds like common sense, but just in case!)

Also, always have a few handy. Don't worry, carrying a bunch of condoms is not skanky, it's safe.

Safe Sex Series: Protection

Raincoat. Rubber. Glove. Condom.

However you wanna say it, anyone who is sexually active should know a thing or two (and hopefully more) about condoms.
This includes women, after call, can we really rely on men for this sort of thing?

So first post of what I dubbed the "Safe Sex Series": Protection


Condoms

Condoms are not for men. If he doesn't want to wear one, the female condom is also an option. It's all about personal preference.

Here are two quick videos to demonstrate putting on a male and female condom:





This video is interesting because it talks about finding the right size condom:






..and, just for fun:

84% of readers have done what in the what?

Cosmopolitan is defined as free from local, provincial, or national ideas, prejudices, or attachments.

On urbandictionary.com, the word is not defined so positively.

Regardless, it's also an adult beverage and a magazine.

I am guilty of getting trappped into a subscription, but it's a fun read. The mag also contains some good facts, tips, etc.

I will get into the pros and cons later; I wanted to give you a little taste of the November issue.

Page 106 has a feature titled, Have You Ever? It's described as the dirtiest sex poll Cosmo has done.

I will type up 5 of these and you can scroll down for the responses...


HAVE YOU EVER...

1. Had sex on a first date?
2. Brought food, like whip cream into bed?
3. Faked an orgasm?
4. Had a quickie?
5. Watched porn alone?

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RESULTS;

1. Had sex on a first date? 28% have, 14% curious, 58% wouldn't
2. Brought food, like whip cream into bed? 38% have, 53% curious, 9% wouldn't
3. Faked an orgasm? 71% have, 5% curious, 24% wouldn't
4. Had a quickie? 80% have, 18% curious, 2% wouldn't
5. Watched porn alone? 68% have, 10% curious, 22% wouldn't

Watch!

It's a little lengthy, but it's jam-packed with a variety of areas regarding sex in college.

I was interested and really surprised about the study near the end of the video.



Also, I'm going to try getting the book and/or movie that was featured, so expect more on that in a future posting :)

Which grosses you out more?

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If you are disgusted by the first image, then you need to use the second.

Can you guess which are facts and which are myths about STD's (sexually-transmitted diseases), also sometimes referred to as STI's (infections)?

1. You cannot get an STD from oral sex.
2. If you have an STD, it can be detected because it is visible.
3. If you're super paranoid, use two condoms instead of one for better protection.

Scroll down for answers...












Answer: THEY ARE ALL MYTHS!

1. You cannot get an STD from oral sex. Not true at all. Anytime you "go down," you are at risk. The only way to be safe is to use protection (a condom or a dental dam). Very important, THE PILL DOES NOT PREVENT STD'S!!

2. If you have an STD, it can be detected because it is visible. The whole, "know it when you see it" claim is bull, plain and simple. While it is easy to detect STD's when signs and symptoms are visible, many people go without knowing they are infected because a significant amount of people do not show any signs. Also, very important, when someone tells you 'I've been tested,' that's NOT enough. Many people think that tests can ALWAYS pick up any infections. NOT TRUE. Tests are important, but some tests can only detect STD's when there is clearly an outbreak.

3. If you're super paranoid, use two condoms instead of one for better protection. Don't even think about it! Despite what Boys Like Girls say, two is not better than one(in this case)! With all the rubbing from two condoms, there's a higher risk of the condoms breaking or slipping off. Bad idea, folks.

I promise to keep 'em coming (no pun intended). Stay safe!

How much would you pay for sex?

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Sexual GPA

And just when you thought the grading stopped outside the classroom, Trojan releases it's 5th Annual Sexual Health Report Card.

So what the hell does that mean?

Trojan has looked at colleges across the country and gave them a grade based on quality and accessibility to sexual health resources.

While Trojan only looks at 141 colleges and universities, 30% of college students across the country attend these institutions.

So, who made top honors?

1. Colombia University
2. Michigan State
3. Ohio State University

For, further rankings and to read more, click here.

Amber Madison: Talks Sex

I had never heard of Amber Madison, but seeing her do a presentation at LVC today made me realize I'm not alone.

She puts a spin on sex that makes it interesting and comfortable for people to open up about it.

The Leedy Theater was full of students who laughed non-stop as she explained awkward situations and gave advice about all things sex.

I wrote a story for my college's newspaper and will have a video up soon here.

Here's a video of Amber Madison on Today:
Check out this great MSN Video: Is 'hooking up' unhealthy for teens?

Do Not Disturb: Where's the privacy in the bedroom?

My blog is about sex, all things pertaining to sex.
However, some issues dealing with sex are just more important to discuss than the purpose of a flavored condom...


Sex today is different than it was in the past.

Technology has opened the doors for many things. Forums, chats and dating sites offer new insight to the world of sex. People can meet potential partners, others can seek advice. The Internet can be a tool to someone's problems.

Tyler Clementi went online seeking advice to anyone who would listen.

Technology gives people the chance to spread information to the masses, quick and easy, such as Facebook: to inform people of what their plans are for the evening.

Tyler Clementi's last status update on his Facebook page read, "Jumping off the gw bridge sorry."

Technology can also be a tool to destroy lives.

On September 22, Tyler Clementi's life was cut short in what people are calling a sex-tape suicide.

Clementi's private, intimate moments with another male were streamed on the Internet for anyone with a computer to see.

The person who made this possible: his roommate Dharun Ravi.

College is supposed to be a chance for new experiences, to escape the immaturity and drama and high school, and to leave your invasive parents for an escape.. No more barging into your room, because "we own this house" and "as long as we pay the bills"... You're supposed to respect and trust the person you live with in a dorm room.

However, Tyler Clementi's right to privacy was taken away, and in that, his promising future was gone.

So the question stands, when did intimate relationships become entertainment to people besides the two involved?