Sex After 60? Is it possible?

This article has tips to make sex possible when you're older. It kind of scares me a bit, that sex may not be possible.

However, remember there are options other than intercourse.

Here you go:
http://www.aolhealth.com/condition-center/menopause/sex-after-60?icid=maing%7Cmain5%7Cdl3%7Csec1_lnk5%7C32086

One of the tips is to get in the mood with kissing and caressing and all that jazz. I have to say this is rather cute, and something you don't find in friends with benefits relationships all the time.

Sex is good, but I would like everyone to take from the article the idea of being more intimate.

One Night Stand Series: Part 1

Location, location, location:

I gave you tips to survive a friends with benefits series.

Now here's how to smoothly succeed in a one night stand...

One night stands are definitely less complicated but there's the potential for more danger (in my opinion). It all depends on how the one night stand relationship was formed.

Where to Find your One Night 1/2
While you should be careful in some locations, these have the potential to work out for you in a one-night stand ring.

Bars Typical place, but it works.
Clubs
Weddings You probably have mutual friends, or you might not. However, this person is more than likely not a psychopath and also he/she most likely will not be cheating if they came alone.
Parties
Planned Event I didn't know how to categorize this, but basically this can include sporting events, plays, musicals, shows, concerts, something where your adrenaline might be high but communication will not be as much as a dinner or something.


When to say NO

Drunk as a skunk The potential 1/2 is TOO intoxicated and well UNaware of her/his surroundings. It's definitely not a good idea to pick this person. Even if it's just a one night stand, there's no need to take advantage of someone. And besides, do you really want to rub his head or hold her hair back as she vomits in the toilet...not a turn on!

Quick to Commit It's good if you both are in agreement that this is just a one night stand. The risks are definitely lower than friends with benefits of falling hard for someone. However, if you're chatting the other up, and he/she starts talking about "the future" or "seeing you again," then this is not just a one night stand to them. Rethink what you want, or get out!

Anyone you see Frequently This includes bosses, co-workers, your best friend, your best friend's brother/sister. Yeah, I know you were considering them! This is more of the friends with benefits realm, and actually more of the complicating a fwb relationship. This may create tension, become awkward, or if the one night stand is a disaster night, there could be worse repurcussions: ended friendships, ruined working relationships.. anything.. It's just too risky.

Let's talk about pornography...

Okay, so I will only slightly digress from the topic of sex..

In my Criminology class, my group was given the topic of porn. We were to argue if pornography (not child pornography) should remain legal or be illegal.

My group consisted of three guys, either football players, frat boys, or both.. What side do you think they took? :)

I took the same side, saying porn should be legal. That's the way I always felt. Through a lot of research, I'm proud to say I could back up my stance with some evidence.

So, why is porn good?

Myth #1: Watching porn causes men to be violent towards women.
There is no proof that this is true. To say it fancy, correlational data does not result in causation. To say it like a normal person, studies that show men have been violent cannot determine porn is the cause or the only cause of the violence.


Myth #2: Porn will ruin your sex life and/or relationship.
In terms of porn addiction, this could happen. However, if partners are open to watching pornography, it can actually help.. Why? See below.

1. Porn helps women feel comfortable about sexuality
2. Pornography can teach women/men about sex
3. It can help people avoid promiscuity when people are not in a relationship
4. For those who are into more risky types of sex, this could be an outlet for watching without doing.

There were other reasons we found, along with studies and figures. But you get the drift.

When used responsibly, porn can be a good thing. :)

genetisex?

Is cheating genetic?
WebMD sought the answer and...

I am not going to tell you. Click here to find out!

InterCourses..mmm..

So, are aphrodisiacs real? An aphrodisiac is a food that increases your sexual desire, fyi.

I found a Top 10 List of AlterNet, and a list on Cosmopolitan.
Seems like aphrodisiacs are generally healthy.. So whether this is a cut down on McDonalds kind of ploy or an actual effective way to increase sexual desire, it seems like either result would be positive.

Test them out for yourself. :)

Alternet:

10. Asparagus: ..yuck! I am personally not a fan, but it contain nutrients to help boost histamine (which is necessary to reach orgasm in both sexes)
9. Almonds: just the smell of almonds alone is supposed to arouse females.
8. Avocado: the Aztecs called this fruit the "testicle tree"
7. Bananas: It's not just the shape, but the vitamins that put it on the list!
6. Basil: Next time you're cooking, sprinkle a pinch on that pasta! It's not only stimulating, but healthy!
5. Chocolate: Duh! It helps PMS, is a neccessary addition to your Easter Basket. It seems like chocolate is good ALL THE TIME!
4. Figs: So bring me that figgy pudding! They go wayyyy back in history. This was Cleo's favorite fruit, if you're interested :)
3. Garlic: Repels Vampires and makes people want to have sex.. Huh? This doesn't seem to make sense as you should avoid garlic for fear of bad breath! Garlic does increase blood flow, so make sure you have some mints and mouthwash on hand!
2. Oysters: Why? To put it simply, the zinc content helps produce sperm and increases libido.
1. Honey: Now we know Winnie the Pooh's secret. Good for both men and women!

More than sex.

So, does it take a candlelit dinner and a walk on the beach to result in intimacy?

If you said yes, tell me again after seeing this post secret.




Sex is healthy and it can be fun and pleasurable, but today I want to digress from sex. Why? Because sex isn't everything. I think people forget sometimes that sex isn't necessary for a relationship to work, especially when you don't have the option of sex.


Whoever posted this secret, I admire greatly. It's hard to love someone in prison, regardless of the circumstances. It's even more difficult to stay with someone when all you have are visits (sometimes just between the glass).

Love is a beautiful thing. If you're not ready, or do not want to have sex, don't.
If he/she is really worth it, they will wait for you.

This person waited.

Is this really helpful?

I am not promoting this video in a positive light.

This PSA was recently released and unfortunately, it seems to promote Bristol Palin an the Situation more than safe sex.

There needs to be more education available and less SITUATION.
Watch, but then please, do some real educational research.

Friends With Benefits Series: Part 1

I was going to write a blog about friends with benefits, until I realized, I've already done so.

In a prior journalism class, I wrote a story on friends with benefits. It's short and to the point.

This will be the opening to my "friends with benefits" series.

UrbanDictionary.com defines it as “the best kind of friendship out there” and “two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved.” “Friends with benefits” (f.w.b) are sweeping college campuses across the nation. Casual sex is the new black; in a recent study on college students, two-thirds said they had been in an f.w.b. relationship. While the convenience of sex being a phone call and a dorm away might sound appealing, it doesn’t reap all the benefits.

So you get two friends in a room together who share at least a mild attraction and are comfortable with each other. They agree on a no-strings attached, sexual relationship. What could possibly go wrong?

The only recipe that doesn’t stir up disaster is if the two people involved can keep from becoming emotionally attached, which is virtually impossible since there’s already an established relationship. In fact, 65.3% of students who have an f.w.b. said the biggest disadvantage is that feelings could develop.

In most cases, it’s the women who want more than friends and the men who are simply seeking the benefits. Women fail miserably when it comes to keeping the physical and emotional two separate entities. The girl is more likely to get jealous when the guy is out getting a piece from the chick at the bar. She’ll be the one texting him asking where he’s at and who he’s with constantly. He’ll become fed up and know all the right things to say to get under her skin such as, “maybe this sex thing is a bad idea,” and “stop acting like a jealous girlfriend.”

The girl will put up with the sucky scenario for a number of reasons. Women outnumber men on college campuses and it’s more difficult for them to find potential mates. Fear of rejection also forces women to withhold their feelings inside. Admitting feelings that aren’t being reciprocated can also lead to awkwardness and many women just don’t find it worth the risk.

With that aside, let’s say neither one of you experience the emotional rollercoaster of falling for the friend (which trust me, isn’t likely), are hook-ups outside of the f.w.b. zone permitted? 73.3 percent involved admit to not having prior discussions for a set of ground-rules. Rules complicate things mainly because they are a form of commitment and aren’t easy to agree upon. Even with rules, there’s a good chance things will get messy.

So how do you prevent the mess? Make sure you can handle having a sexual relationship with a friend without emotions getting in the way. Try to be honest with each other, and if things get too hot and heavy, get out. It might be called friends with benefits but all good things come to an end and sometimes you have to throw in the towel before you lose not only the benefits but the friend as well.

Dudes want sex, chicks want relationships?

True. Very much so.

But also, quite false.

Why can't both genders want both? They can.

One comedian, Stephen Fry is being criticized by feminists for saying that women will only engage in sexual activities because, "sex is the price they are willing to pay for a relationship."

Here's the full story.

Anyway, I have a question, is he right?

Studies show that many women enter friends with benefits (fwb) relationships because they are hoping it will turn into something more. Meanwhile, men simply seek the benefits.

What do you think?

My next post will be on fwb, btw.

What do you mean I had sex with 4095 people?!?

This chart used to gross me out in middle school.
And then I thought, "How stupid, I'd be exposed to 4095 people if I slept with 12?"

I distinctly remember looking at this poster with one of my friends who responded, "That's what showers are for."

Looking back on this now all I can think is, "Girl, there's not enough soap in the world to wash away an STD."

Once it's there, it's there. I'm not trying to scare people from having sex. Who would I to tell you not to do it?

I'm just saying, safety should always be on your mind.

Here's an enlarged... chart. Perv.

You don't have to be Mary,

...to be a virgin.


This image is from this week's Post Secret.

Is making "your first time" having sex special overrated?

I think in some aspects, yes.
Can you remember the age, place, date, person of your first time?
I can, but many cannot remember all of those details.

Is it always special, meaningful, and with someone you care deeply for?
Mine was not. I can tell you, I knew right from the start he wasn't the one. The situation was completely awkward and slightly embarrassing.
The experience is definitely not always going to be reminiscent of something on a romantic film reel.

The point of this post isn't' for me to pour my heart out or bitch that I had a less than The Notebook sexual experience.

My point is, a lot of people are nervous before their first time. Others just want to get it out of the way in order to gain experience.

When did sex become something you practice? I say be prepared, but I don't mean go pick some random dude from across the party and take him home.

Don't be embarrassed if you are still carrying around your v-card.

The only advice that holds true for anyone is:
-Talk to someone close with you (be it a parent or counselor or friend who you can trust).
-If you decide to have sex, make sure you're comfortable with that decision. You can always back out and not feel bad for doing so. It doesn't matter if his/her pants are off and ready to go. It's about you.
-Have "the talk" with your partner. While getting caught up in the moment may seem steamy and romantic, you need to trust your partner. Further, you need to know what's going on below their waist (STD's, all that good stuff).
-Be safe: Have protection and/or birth control.
-See a doctor prior to and once you become sexually active.

**Remember, everybody is NOT doing it. The last thing you want to do is have regrets.

Sex on the job?

Is that considered prostitution?

I'm going to go with no, unless, perhaps it's your boss. The line in that department can be very thin.

Anyways, is sex at work an issue of ethics? I say not, but this I'm sure is different for every person.

Is it appropriate? Probably not. Then again, a lot of things are inappropriate.

This cheesy video will give you step-by-step how to pursue having sex at work:



Here is the step-by-step advice from the video:

1. Choose your partner carefuly: Dating the boss could ruin your rep. While the video suggests perhaps someone lower, I don't think you need to go necessarily for the dude scraping the gum from under the tables.

2. Keep it a secret: Come to an agreement with your partner.

3. Location, location, location: Find a place where it's not obvious (especially during hours). At the same time, you want to be comfortable.

4. If you're gonna be loud, cover up the sound: Yep, the rest of your co-workers do not need to hear your noises. Simple enough.

5. Get down to business: Do it!

Some other things to remember:
-It's a risk. You could lose your job and reputation. Be prepared with a back-up plan.
-Make sure you know the person well. Trust is important.
-Still be safe. Wear protection.
-Make sure you both want the same thing. Don't go into it expecting a relationship when the other person just wants a good lay.

Straight from Marie Claire magazine.. statistics!
60% OF MC READERS have Slept with a coworker
85% OF YOU HAVE DRESSED TO IMPRESS A CRUSH AT WORK
50% OF YOU HAVE FANTASIZED ABOUT YOUR BOSS
70% OF YOU HAVE GOTTEN OFF THINKING ABOUT A COWORKER
30% OF YOU HAVE HAD A FLING WHILE TRAVELING FOR WORK

Amber Madison: Talks Sex

I had never heard of Amber Madison, but seeing her do a presentation at LVC today made me realize I'm not alone.

She puts a spin on sex that makes it interesting and comfortable for people to open up about it.

The Leedy Theater was full of students who laughed non-stop as she explained awkward situations and gave advice about all things sex.

I wrote a story for my college's newspaper and will have a video up soon here.

Here's a video of Amber Madison on Today:
Check out this great MSN Video: Is 'hooking up' unhealthy for teens?

Do Not Disturb: Where's the privacy in the bedroom?

My blog is about sex, all things pertaining to sex.
However, some issues dealing with sex are just more important to discuss than the purpose of a flavored condom...


Sex today is different than it was in the past.

Technology has opened the doors for many things. Forums, chats and dating sites offer new insight to the world of sex. People can meet potential partners, others can seek advice. The Internet can be a tool to someone's problems.

Tyler Clementi went online seeking advice to anyone who would listen.

Technology gives people the chance to spread information to the masses, quick and easy, such as Facebook: to inform people of what their plans are for the evening.

Tyler Clementi's last status update on his Facebook page read, "Jumping off the gw bridge sorry."

Technology can also be a tool to destroy lives.

On September 22, Tyler Clementi's life was cut short in what people are calling a sex-tape suicide.

Clementi's private, intimate moments with another male were streamed on the Internet for anyone with a computer to see.

The person who made this possible: his roommate Dharun Ravi.

College is supposed to be a chance for new experiences, to escape the immaturity and drama and high school, and to leave your invasive parents for an escape.. No more barging into your room, because "we own this house" and "as long as we pay the bills"... You're supposed to respect and trust the person you live with in a dorm room.

However, Tyler Clementi's right to privacy was taken away, and in that, his promising future was gone.

So the question stands, when did intimate relationships become entertainment to people besides the two involved?

From PostSecret...

Is this a relationship killer?



What is worse: A bad relationship with amazing sex, or an amazing relationship with bad sex?