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Is making "your first time" having sex special overrated?
I think in some aspects, yes.
Can you remember the age, place, date, person of your first time?
I can, but many cannot remember all of those details.
Is it always special, meaningful, and with someone you care deeply for?
Mine was not. I can tell you, I knew right from the start he wasn't the one. The situation was completely awkward and slightly embarrassing.
The experience is definitely not always going to be reminiscent of something on a romantic film reel.
The point of this post isn't' for me to pour my heart out or bitch that I had a less than The Notebook sexual experience.
My point is, a lot of people are nervous before their first time. Others just want to get it out of the way in order to gain experience.
When did sex become something you practice? I say be prepared, but I don't mean go pick some random dude from across the party and take him home.
Don't be embarrassed if you are still carrying around your v-card.
The only advice that holds true for anyone is:
-Talk to someone close with you (be it a parent or counselor or friend who you can trust).
-If you decide to have sex, make sure you're comfortable with that decision. You can always back out and not feel bad for doing so. It doesn't matter if his/her pants are off and ready to go. It's about you.
-Have "the talk" with your partner. While getting caught up in the moment may seem steamy and romantic, you need to trust your partner. Further, you need to know what's going on below their waist (STD's, all that good stuff).
-Be safe: Have protection and/or birth control.
-See a doctor prior to and once you become sexually active.
**Remember, everybody is NOT doing it. The last thing you want to do is have regrets.
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