Sex After 60? Is it possible?

This article has tips to make sex possible when you're older. It kind of scares me a bit, that sex may not be possible.

However, remember there are options other than intercourse.

Here you go:
http://www.aolhealth.com/condition-center/menopause/sex-after-60?icid=maing%7Cmain5%7Cdl3%7Csec1_lnk5%7C32086

One of the tips is to get in the mood with kissing and caressing and all that jazz. I have to say this is rather cute, and something you don't find in friends with benefits relationships all the time.

Sex is good, but I would like everyone to take from the article the idea of being more intimate.

One Night Stand Series: Part 1

Location, location, location:

I gave you tips to survive a friends with benefits series.

Now here's how to smoothly succeed in a one night stand...

One night stands are definitely less complicated but there's the potential for more danger (in my opinion). It all depends on how the one night stand relationship was formed.

Where to Find your One Night 1/2
While you should be careful in some locations, these have the potential to work out for you in a one-night stand ring.

Bars Typical place, but it works.
Clubs
Weddings You probably have mutual friends, or you might not. However, this person is more than likely not a psychopath and also he/she most likely will not be cheating if they came alone.
Parties
Planned Event I didn't know how to categorize this, but basically this can include sporting events, plays, musicals, shows, concerts, something where your adrenaline might be high but communication will not be as much as a dinner or something.


When to say NO

Drunk as a skunk The potential 1/2 is TOO intoxicated and well UNaware of her/his surroundings. It's definitely not a good idea to pick this person. Even if it's just a one night stand, there's no need to take advantage of someone. And besides, do you really want to rub his head or hold her hair back as she vomits in the toilet...not a turn on!

Quick to Commit It's good if you both are in agreement that this is just a one night stand. The risks are definitely lower than friends with benefits of falling hard for someone. However, if you're chatting the other up, and he/she starts talking about "the future" or "seeing you again," then this is not just a one night stand to them. Rethink what you want, or get out!

Anyone you see Frequently This includes bosses, co-workers, your best friend, your best friend's brother/sister. Yeah, I know you were considering them! This is more of the friends with benefits realm, and actually more of the complicating a fwb relationship. This may create tension, become awkward, or if the one night stand is a disaster night, there could be worse repurcussions: ended friendships, ruined working relationships.. anything.. It's just too risky.

Let's talk about pornography...

Okay, so I will only slightly digress from the topic of sex..

In my Criminology class, my group was given the topic of porn. We were to argue if pornography (not child pornography) should remain legal or be illegal.

My group consisted of three guys, either football players, frat boys, or both.. What side do you think they took? :)

I took the same side, saying porn should be legal. That's the way I always felt. Through a lot of research, I'm proud to say I could back up my stance with some evidence.

So, why is porn good?

Myth #1: Watching porn causes men to be violent towards women.
There is no proof that this is true. To say it fancy, correlational data does not result in causation. To say it like a normal person, studies that show men have been violent cannot determine porn is the cause or the only cause of the violence.


Myth #2: Porn will ruin your sex life and/or relationship.
In terms of porn addiction, this could happen. However, if partners are open to watching pornography, it can actually help.. Why? See below.

1. Porn helps women feel comfortable about sexuality
2. Pornography can teach women/men about sex
3. It can help people avoid promiscuity when people are not in a relationship
4. For those who are into more risky types of sex, this could be an outlet for watching without doing.

There were other reasons we found, along with studies and figures. But you get the drift.

When used responsibly, porn can be a good thing. :)

genetisex?

Is cheating genetic?
WebMD sought the answer and...

I am not going to tell you. Click here to find out!

InterCourses..mmm..

So, are aphrodisiacs real? An aphrodisiac is a food that increases your sexual desire, fyi.

I found a Top 10 List of AlterNet, and a list on Cosmopolitan.
Seems like aphrodisiacs are generally healthy.. So whether this is a cut down on McDonalds kind of ploy or an actual effective way to increase sexual desire, it seems like either result would be positive.

Test them out for yourself. :)

Alternet:

10. Asparagus: ..yuck! I am personally not a fan, but it contain nutrients to help boost histamine (which is necessary to reach orgasm in both sexes)
9. Almonds: just the smell of almonds alone is supposed to arouse females.
8. Avocado: the Aztecs called this fruit the "testicle tree"
7. Bananas: It's not just the shape, but the vitamins that put it on the list!
6. Basil: Next time you're cooking, sprinkle a pinch on that pasta! It's not only stimulating, but healthy!
5. Chocolate: Duh! It helps PMS, is a neccessary addition to your Easter Basket. It seems like chocolate is good ALL THE TIME!
4. Figs: So bring me that figgy pudding! They go wayyyy back in history. This was Cleo's favorite fruit, if you're interested :)
3. Garlic: Repels Vampires and makes people want to have sex.. Huh? This doesn't seem to make sense as you should avoid garlic for fear of bad breath! Garlic does increase blood flow, so make sure you have some mints and mouthwash on hand!
2. Oysters: Why? To put it simply, the zinc content helps produce sperm and increases libido.
1. Honey: Now we know Winnie the Pooh's secret. Good for both men and women!

Radio sex... what?

So we've heard of phone sex, but radio sex?

Dennis Rodman called up a radio station and during his 7 minute interview, he was.. well.. really close to a woman named Teresa.

This made me laugh. I can only imagine what the radio hosts thought.

Happpy thanksgiving!

Today is a holiday for love of family, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives... so show your partners some love! :)

Where's the sex for the baby boomers?

Times of free love are gone.

New studies show that 24% of the nation's baby boomers are now unhappy with their sex lives.

The questions is... why?
Well, the study shows that there are different expectations of sex and relationships between genders.

Something interesting I found from this study is that while it surveys men and women between the ages of 45 and 65, the gender differences are very similar to that of teens and young adults.

61% of men in the study say that sex is an important part of the relationship.
53% of women say it really doesn't matter.

This study is just another thing making me not look forward to getting older.. :(

More than sex.

So, does it take a candlelit dinner and a walk on the beach to result in intimacy?

If you said yes, tell me again after seeing this post secret.




Sex is healthy and it can be fun and pleasurable, but today I want to digress from sex. Why? Because sex isn't everything. I think people forget sometimes that sex isn't necessary for a relationship to work, especially when you don't have the option of sex.


Whoever posted this secret, I admire greatly. It's hard to love someone in prison, regardless of the circumstances. It's even more difficult to stay with someone when all you have are visits (sometimes just between the glass).

Love is a beautiful thing. If you're not ready, or do not want to have sex, don't.
If he/she is really worth it, they will wait for you.

This person waited.

Safe Sex Series: Getting Tested

One campaign I think is so great for sex, is the GYT MTV campaign.
When they say GYT, they don't just mean get yourself tested, but also, get yourself talking.

Communication is key in being safe. You need to be honest with your partner and also your doctor.

Getting tested is the first step, but it's not the only step.

Before Getting Tested Be completely open with your doctor.
You need to let him/her know:
1. How many partners you've had.
2. If they've had other partners
3. What forms of protection you've used (and they've used)
4. What kinds of sex you have had: Some tests are swabs and physical exams and they need to know what needs to be looked at!
5. Don't be afraid to give details; it will only help assure you.

Getting Tested
1. Cooperate
2. If you want something tested that they do not mention, ask.
3. Tell your partner to get tested as well!

Post-Testing
1. Talk to your doctor
2. Ask Questions
3. Have follow-ups
4. Get Tested if you have unprotected sex

Remember
1. If you have an STD, get treated, and be honest with your partner.
2. Do not participate in risky sexual behavior
3. Get tested regularly- Being tested once, does not mean that the test was 100% accurate. Some STD strains do not show up in tests unless you are having a breakout.

1 in 2 sexually active young people will get an STD by 25---- most won't know it.

iPhone sex

Check this out!

Some Harvard psychologists created an iPhone app to determine what makes people happiest.

The result: sex.

If you want to read the entire article, click here.

While the study hasn't determined why, it shows that not only are people happiest during sex, but also most focused. Exercise comes in second, but then again, they don't call it sexercise for nothing!

Should sex education exist in schools?

Guttmacher Institute determined through research that STD rates drop in areas where sex education is taught.

With that in mind, why do we hear about more and more teens having kids of their own?

In my opinion, not enough schools teach sex education. There is the debate whether it should be taught or not. A school's purpose is to provide an education and prepare for the future.

Students are often offered courses in money management, home economics, family living.. why not sex education?

They all help prepare for your future.

Even schools that provide sex ed typically start by talking about the body changes in 4th grade and in 6th grade move to STD's.

Schools need to consider how in today's world, teens are having sex at much younger ages. Thus, they need to be educated sooner.

Join in on the debate. What do you think?

Is this really helpful?

I am not promoting this video in a positive light.

This PSA was recently released and unfortunately, it seems to promote Bristol Palin an the Situation more than safe sex.

There needs to be more education available and less SITUATION.
Watch, but then please, do some real educational research.

Supersize, please.

"Hi, Can I get a number 4, hold the lube?"
"That'll be 12.99, please pull up to the first window."

Okay, I'm not exactly sure how it works, but the first Sex-toy Drive-thru service has "sprung up" in Huntsville, Alabama.

Convenience at its finest.

I've been reading through some articles and I'm questioning the convenience. News station WTAG says that in order to comply with Alabama state law, consumers must fill out a questionnaire stating the health purpose for such a purchase.

Filling out the questionnaire may just be more awkward than "sparkly dildo" showing up on your credit card statement.

My question is.. What does a drive thru say about Americans view on sex? I mean, now we don't even have to leave our cars to get a sex toy. Are we that lazy?

You tell me. Is this a good idea?

Friends with Benefits Series: Do's and Dont's

While a friends with benefits relationship may seem exciting and you may want to just "go with the flow," don't!

In order to have a successful friends with benefits relationship, you need to be cautious and aware.

Here are some tips:

Finding the Right Friend to have benefits with:
1. Make sure you're comfortable with the guy/girl (from now on, I will just use he). He needs to be someone you have fun with, but you can also talk to, especially if things aren't turning out the way you want.

2. He must be single or in an open relationship.

3. I recommend not going for your ex, especially if it was a serious relationship or you got your heart broken.

4. Do not choose the guy who rejected you in the relationship department.

5. I also would not recommend someone who you are in a professional relationship with (such as a boss, or maybe you're the boss.. not good!)

The Sex Part:

1. Use protection; be safe

2. Get tested and ask him to get tested too.

3. Do not cuddle, snuggle, or be romantically intimate before, during, or after.

4. Please, no holding hands!

5. Keep it at JUST SEX. After all, that's what it is.

In the friend realm...

1. Do not be intimate in public (you should not be intimate at all).

2. Just because you're having sex, doesn't mean you need to talk about it publicly.

3. I would not recommend candle-lit dinners, or obvious couple/relationship dates.

4. There should be NO spending the night.

Problems brewing?

1. If you're developing feelings, get out!

2. If he admits feelings and you do not feel the same, end it.

3. Good sex is not worth a good friendship (even though it may seem tempting).

4. Communicate any problems. Do not assume you know.

5. While you are friends, it shouldn't be someone (like a best friend). So you shouldn't be calling, "just to say hi." If you don't have a good reason, put the phone down.

6. If you're not having fun, screw the fwb relationship, not the guy.

Other tips

1. Be open with what you want from the start. Communication is key. If he doesn't want the same thing, then you shouldn't share the same bed.

2. Stick to the rules. If they were good from the start, there is no reason to change them. If you're unhappy, leave the relationship, don't try to morph the rules to your liking, especially if you haven't communicated this to the guy.

3. If you find someone with dating potential, end the fwb with the other guy. You do not want to create a mess, so make a clean break.

4. Remember, if it's getting too heavy, get the hell out of there!

Faithful men live longer...

Yeah, maybe if your girlfriend/wife/partner finds out the man has been cheating, she may shorten his life, but that's not what I'm talking about! ;)

Apparentlyyyyy men who have sex and are FAITHFUL, have better cardiovascular performances.

Why? Well, the study shows the stress of infidelity in combination with a decreased sexual actitity leads to a poorer performance.

Men produce testosterone during sex and this helps to reduce the risks of heart disease.

Depression and stress (for example from unhappy and unhealthy sex lives and/or infidelity) can lead to an increase in heart disease.

So there you go. Men: Don't cheat, have sex. :)

Click for more!

I love these studies..

I just want to know who find the correlation between sex and [insert subject I would have never thought was related but now it kind of makes sense]...

Well, the newest study... hypertexting and sex among teens goes hand in hand.

"Teens who text 120 times a day or more — and there seems to be a lot of them — are more likely to have had sex or used alcohol and drugs than kids who don't send as many messages, according to provocative new research."

The study states that teens who text more than 120 texts a day are 3.5 times more likely to engage in sex.

The study covered 20 high schools and surveyed 4200 students. The study makes sense, but I definitely think it needs to be looked into more.

Here you go...click me

Friends With Benefits Series: Movies

Finally, some upcoming movies about FWB!

Friends with Benefits, starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis is set to come out in July in 2011. While there isn't too much out about the film now here is a trailer:



No Strings Attached, starring Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher is scheduled for a Jannuary 2011 release. Similar to Friends with Benefits, it portrays two friends who seek a fwb relationship. There's a bit more in regards to synopsis available for this film..

It looks like from the trailer, the character played by Portman wants to establish rules for the fwb relationship (very important; I'll touch on this in future posts)..



One thing that makes me apprehensive about both films is I'm afraid it's going to be the typical happy ending, everyone falls in love deal.

This is not usually how FWB relationships work! Be cautious. :)

Oral leads to intercourse

I posted about this on November 2, but this article is a bit more detailed in regards to a study done on the correlation between oral sex and intercourse amongst teens.

Read up here!

Friends With Benefits Series: Part 1

I was going to write a blog about friends with benefits, until I realized, I've already done so.

In a prior journalism class, I wrote a story on friends with benefits. It's short and to the point.

This will be the opening to my "friends with benefits" series.

UrbanDictionary.com defines it as “the best kind of friendship out there” and “two friends who have a sexual relationship without being emotionally involved.” “Friends with benefits” (f.w.b) are sweeping college campuses across the nation. Casual sex is the new black; in a recent study on college students, two-thirds said they had been in an f.w.b. relationship. While the convenience of sex being a phone call and a dorm away might sound appealing, it doesn’t reap all the benefits.

So you get two friends in a room together who share at least a mild attraction and are comfortable with each other. They agree on a no-strings attached, sexual relationship. What could possibly go wrong?

The only recipe that doesn’t stir up disaster is if the two people involved can keep from becoming emotionally attached, which is virtually impossible since there’s already an established relationship. In fact, 65.3% of students who have an f.w.b. said the biggest disadvantage is that feelings could develop.

In most cases, it’s the women who want more than friends and the men who are simply seeking the benefits. Women fail miserably when it comes to keeping the physical and emotional two separate entities. The girl is more likely to get jealous when the guy is out getting a piece from the chick at the bar. She’ll be the one texting him asking where he’s at and who he’s with constantly. He’ll become fed up and know all the right things to say to get under her skin such as, “maybe this sex thing is a bad idea,” and “stop acting like a jealous girlfriend.”

The girl will put up with the sucky scenario for a number of reasons. Women outnumber men on college campuses and it’s more difficult for them to find potential mates. Fear of rejection also forces women to withhold their feelings inside. Admitting feelings that aren’t being reciprocated can also lead to awkwardness and many women just don’t find it worth the risk.

With that aside, let’s say neither one of you experience the emotional rollercoaster of falling for the friend (which trust me, isn’t likely), are hook-ups outside of the f.w.b. zone permitted? 73.3 percent involved admit to not having prior discussions for a set of ground-rules. Rules complicate things mainly because they are a form of commitment and aren’t easy to agree upon. Even with rules, there’s a good chance things will get messy.

So how do you prevent the mess? Make sure you can handle having a sexual relationship with a friend without emotions getting in the way. Try to be honest with each other, and if things get too hot and heavy, get out. It might be called friends with benefits but all good things come to an end and sometimes you have to throw in the towel before you lose not only the benefits but the friend as well.

Dudes want sex, chicks want relationships?

True. Very much so.

But also, quite false.

Why can't both genders want both? They can.

One comedian, Stephen Fry is being criticized by feminists for saying that women will only engage in sexual activities because, "sex is the price they are willing to pay for a relationship."

Here's the full story.

Anyway, I have a question, is he right?

Studies show that many women enter friends with benefits (fwb) relationships because they are hoping it will turn into something more. Meanwhile, men simply seek the benefits.

What do you think?

My next post will be on fwb, btw.

Prof. talk about sex, baby...

A Journalism professor at the University of Tampa stresses the importance of sex columns in college newspapers.

To find that he wrote a book on these student writings is refreshing.
In this short Q&A with USA Today, he answers a few questions regarding the columns and how they affect others.

My favorite part of the interview:

Q: What conclusions can we draw about students' sex lives from these columns?

A: These are wonderful sociological treasures in defining this sexual generation. The quote I love most is, "We're not Baby Boomers. We're not part of Generation X. We're generation sex." They're speaking to students in their own language. They cover every extreme possible but primarily grapple with how confusing the current social, sexual landscape is on campus. The general sentiment seems to be that all rules have been thrown out the window. Chivalry is gone, dating is passé, gender roles reversed. There's no blueprint for how students are supposed to act with each other. The columnists are asking, "Is this really good for us?"

To read more, you know what to do... click!

What do you mean I had sex with 4095 people?!?

This chart used to gross me out in middle school.
And then I thought, "How stupid, I'd be exposed to 4095 people if I slept with 12?"

I distinctly remember looking at this poster with one of my friends who responded, "That's what showers are for."

Looking back on this now all I can think is, "Girl, there's not enough soap in the world to wash away an STD."

Once it's there, it's there. I'm not trying to scare people from having sex. Who would I to tell you not to do it?

I'm just saying, safety should always be on your mind.

Here's an enlarged... chart. Perv.

20 preggers freshmen?!

One pissed off dad decided to write a letter to the editor about high schools inadequately teaching kids about safe sex.

I believe he comes to that conclusion with valid points. With this said, I'm going to google around a bit and see how some schools teach about safe sex.

I know, while it is required, we didn't get much at my alma mater. Oh well.

Anyways, here's the link.

Are you married and sleep alone?

Well, if you are, it's more normal than you think. Here are a few facts (or stats) about sex:

It doesn't matter how high your expectations are ladies and gents, the average male penis size is: 5-7 inches long and 4-6 inches circumference


How long should you wait? While you should wait until YOU'RE READY, the average male loses his virginity at 16.9 years old... as for the ladies.. a little older at 17.4 years. This doesn't change the fact that females still have the older maturity level! ;)

12% of married adults sleep alone.. Yes, I am serious.


Is not having the big O normal? 75% of men always reach orgasm; women are shafted (no pun intended), as only about 29% of women report reaching orgasm.

How many people can you sleep with and still not be considered a slut? I have no idea. The average man aged 20-59 has slept with 7 different partners. Women in the same age bracket have slept with 4 on average.

These statistics show, sometimes it's okay to just be average! :)

Survey says...

Having oral sex leads to more teens having intercourse sooner.
Well, that makes sense!

However, a three-year study has been conducted to prove this theory.

The study states that teens who have oral sex in high school are more likely to have intercourse at a quicker rate.

4 in 10 teens age 15-19 have had sex at least once.

So, there you have it. For more details on the study, click here!

You don't have to be Mary,

...to be a virgin.


This image is from this week's Post Secret.

Is making "your first time" having sex special overrated?

I think in some aspects, yes.
Can you remember the age, place, date, person of your first time?
I can, but many cannot remember all of those details.

Is it always special, meaningful, and with someone you care deeply for?
Mine was not. I can tell you, I knew right from the start he wasn't the one. The situation was completely awkward and slightly embarrassing.
The experience is definitely not always going to be reminiscent of something on a romantic film reel.

The point of this post isn't' for me to pour my heart out or bitch that I had a less than The Notebook sexual experience.

My point is, a lot of people are nervous before their first time. Others just want to get it out of the way in order to gain experience.

When did sex become something you practice? I say be prepared, but I don't mean go pick some random dude from across the party and take him home.

Don't be embarrassed if you are still carrying around your v-card.

The only advice that holds true for anyone is:
-Talk to someone close with you (be it a parent or counselor or friend who you can trust).
-If you decide to have sex, make sure you're comfortable with that decision. You can always back out and not feel bad for doing so. It doesn't matter if his/her pants are off and ready to go. It's about you.
-Have "the talk" with your partner. While getting caught up in the moment may seem steamy and romantic, you need to trust your partner. Further, you need to know what's going on below their waist (STD's, all that good stuff).
-Be safe: Have protection and/or birth control.
-See a doctor prior to and once you become sexually active.

**Remember, everybody is NOT doing it. The last thing you want to do is have regrets.

Sex on the job?

Is that considered prostitution?

I'm going to go with no, unless, perhaps it's your boss. The line in that department can be very thin.

Anyways, is sex at work an issue of ethics? I say not, but this I'm sure is different for every person.

Is it appropriate? Probably not. Then again, a lot of things are inappropriate.

This cheesy video will give you step-by-step how to pursue having sex at work:



Here is the step-by-step advice from the video:

1. Choose your partner carefuly: Dating the boss could ruin your rep. While the video suggests perhaps someone lower, I don't think you need to go necessarily for the dude scraping the gum from under the tables.

2. Keep it a secret: Come to an agreement with your partner.

3. Location, location, location: Find a place where it's not obvious (especially during hours). At the same time, you want to be comfortable.

4. If you're gonna be loud, cover up the sound: Yep, the rest of your co-workers do not need to hear your noises. Simple enough.

5. Get down to business: Do it!

Some other things to remember:
-It's a risk. You could lose your job and reputation. Be prepared with a back-up plan.
-Make sure you know the person well. Trust is important.
-Still be safe. Wear protection.
-Make sure you both want the same thing. Don't go into it expecting a relationship when the other person just wants a good lay.

Straight from Marie Claire magazine.. statistics!
60% OF MC READERS have Slept with a coworker
85% OF YOU HAVE DRESSED TO IMPRESS A CRUSH AT WORK
50% OF YOU HAVE FANTASIZED ABOUT YOUR BOSS
70% OF YOU HAVE GOTTEN OFF THINKING ABOUT A COWORKER
30% OF YOU HAVE HAD A FLING WHILE TRAVELING FOR WORK

Boring Sex?

For those who do not practice abstinence: Your sex life not so fresh?
Regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not, a boring sex life is unhealthy.

So, I'm here to save the day with some website that have different sex positions.


REMEMBER: Stay safe! [scroll down to earlier posts on protecting yourself]! :)

Cosmopolitan: The magazine that has a rep for being jam-packed with all things sex. The website has a special section for different sex positions, with pictures (for those who are visual learners)...
Here is a sample: Click the position name for links to all of the positions!

G-Spot Jiggy


Sex Info 101: This website not only contains the name and description of many sex positions, they are categorized by type and each comes with an animation, making it easier to work out the position.

Men's Health: This website has pictures and descriptions, and may also be more comfortable for males to view.

Women's Health: I believe this site trumps men's health because of the features. You can customize based on who it feels best for, stamina, his size, and your flexibility. It calculates and then a position pops up. Also, something cool is spin to get a position. I clicked it 5 times and kept getting "X-Factor."-- not sure if it changes, let me know!

If you have any good sites or positions, feel free to send them my way!

Enjoy and remember, stay safe!

Safe Sex Series: Protection Part 2

So now you have the down and dirty to putting on a condom.

Part 2 on Protection is making sure the condom is effective.

Putting on the condom properly is important, but without these other tips, it will not keep you safe.

Making sure the condom fits: The condom needs to cover the entire penis and must fit snug. Too tight= breakage and too loose = falling off.

So, 1/2 an inch needs to be left at the top to collect the ejaculate.
Remember, the condom should be snug and comfy. Think skinny jeans!
If the condom isn't long enough to cover the entire shaft, he needs a bigger size.

It may seem picky, but I'm all for being tedious if it prevents STD's and pregnancy!

Location of condoms: Don't rely on the guy to have one. Be sure to have your own stash for a number of reasons.
-He may not have one and insist on not using protection
-He may not have a good condom.

What do I mean by a good condom?
1.Always check the expiration date! Sometimes people will eat food a day or two after the expiration date (ick!). Don't use this rule with condoms. Never use one if it's expired.
2. Make sure it is stored in a dry and cool place.
3. If the package looks torn or damaged, get rid of it.
Remember, when it doubt, throw it out!
4. Do not use condoms that are sticky or discolored.

Places where you should note store a condom:
1. In a wallet. While it's important to keep condoms handy, this convenience isn't safe.
2. On a windowsill
3. In your car, especially the glove compartment. Constant temperature changes (particularly heat from the car) can affect the condom.

Good places for condoms:
1. Uncluttered drawers
2. In a protective case in your purse
3. In a travel bag.
4. In the original packaging (sounds like common sense, but just in case!)

Also, always have a few handy. Don't worry, carrying a bunch of condoms is not skanky, it's safe.

Safe Sex Series: Protection

Raincoat. Rubber. Glove. Condom.

However you wanna say it, anyone who is sexually active should know a thing or two (and hopefully more) about condoms.
This includes women, after call, can we really rely on men for this sort of thing?

So first post of what I dubbed the "Safe Sex Series": Protection


Condoms

Condoms are not for men. If he doesn't want to wear one, the female condom is also an option. It's all about personal preference.

Here are two quick videos to demonstrate putting on a male and female condom:





This video is interesting because it talks about finding the right size condom:






..and, just for fun:

84% of readers have done what in the what?

Cosmopolitan is defined as free from local, provincial, or national ideas, prejudices, or attachments.

On urbandictionary.com, the word is not defined so positively.

Regardless, it's also an adult beverage and a magazine.

I am guilty of getting trappped into a subscription, but it's a fun read. The mag also contains some good facts, tips, etc.

I will get into the pros and cons later; I wanted to give you a little taste of the November issue.

Page 106 has a feature titled, Have You Ever? It's described as the dirtiest sex poll Cosmo has done.

I will type up 5 of these and you can scroll down for the responses...


HAVE YOU EVER...

1. Had sex on a first date?
2. Brought food, like whip cream into bed?
3. Faked an orgasm?
4. Had a quickie?
5. Watched porn alone?

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RESULTS;

1. Had sex on a first date? 28% have, 14% curious, 58% wouldn't
2. Brought food, like whip cream into bed? 38% have, 53% curious, 9% wouldn't
3. Faked an orgasm? 71% have, 5% curious, 24% wouldn't
4. Had a quickie? 80% have, 18% curious, 2% wouldn't
5. Watched porn alone? 68% have, 10% curious, 22% wouldn't

Watch!

It's a little lengthy, but it's jam-packed with a variety of areas regarding sex in college.

I was interested and really surprised about the study near the end of the video.



Also, I'm going to try getting the book and/or movie that was featured, so expect more on that in a future posting :)

Which grosses you out more?

or


If you are disgusted by the first image, then you need to use the second.

Can you guess which are facts and which are myths about STD's (sexually-transmitted diseases), also sometimes referred to as STI's (infections)?

1. You cannot get an STD from oral sex.
2. If you have an STD, it can be detected because it is visible.
3. If you're super paranoid, use two condoms instead of one for better protection.

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Answer: THEY ARE ALL MYTHS!

1. You cannot get an STD from oral sex. Not true at all. Anytime you "go down," you are at risk. The only way to be safe is to use protection (a condom or a dental dam). Very important, THE PILL DOES NOT PREVENT STD'S!!

2. If you have an STD, it can be detected because it is visible. The whole, "know it when you see it" claim is bull, plain and simple. While it is easy to detect STD's when signs and symptoms are visible, many people go without knowing they are infected because a significant amount of people do not show any signs. Also, very important, when someone tells you 'I've been tested,' that's NOT enough. Many people think that tests can ALWAYS pick up any infections. NOT TRUE. Tests are important, but some tests can only detect STD's when there is clearly an outbreak.

3. If you're super paranoid, use two condoms instead of one for better protection. Don't even think about it! Despite what Boys Like Girls say, two is not better than one(in this case)! With all the rubbing from two condoms, there's a higher risk of the condoms breaking or slipping off. Bad idea, folks.

I promise to keep 'em coming (no pun intended). Stay safe!

How much would you pay for sex?

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Sexual GPA

And just when you thought the grading stopped outside the classroom, Trojan releases it's 5th Annual Sexual Health Report Card.

So what the hell does that mean?

Trojan has looked at colleges across the country and gave them a grade based on quality and accessibility to sexual health resources.

While Trojan only looks at 141 colleges and universities, 30% of college students across the country attend these institutions.

So, who made top honors?

1. Colombia University
2. Michigan State
3. Ohio State University

For, further rankings and to read more, click here.

Amber Madison: Talks Sex

I had never heard of Amber Madison, but seeing her do a presentation at LVC today made me realize I'm not alone.

She puts a spin on sex that makes it interesting and comfortable for people to open up about it.

The Leedy Theater was full of students who laughed non-stop as she explained awkward situations and gave advice about all things sex.

I wrote a story for my college's newspaper and will have a video up soon here.

Here's a video of Amber Madison on Today:
Check out this great MSN Video: Is 'hooking up' unhealthy for teens?

Do Not Disturb: Where's the privacy in the bedroom?

My blog is about sex, all things pertaining to sex.
However, some issues dealing with sex are just more important to discuss than the purpose of a flavored condom...


Sex today is different than it was in the past.

Technology has opened the doors for many things. Forums, chats and dating sites offer new insight to the world of sex. People can meet potential partners, others can seek advice. The Internet can be a tool to someone's problems.

Tyler Clementi went online seeking advice to anyone who would listen.

Technology gives people the chance to spread information to the masses, quick and easy, such as Facebook: to inform people of what their plans are for the evening.

Tyler Clementi's last status update on his Facebook page read, "Jumping off the gw bridge sorry."

Technology can also be a tool to destroy lives.

On September 22, Tyler Clementi's life was cut short in what people are calling a sex-tape suicide.

Clementi's private, intimate moments with another male were streamed on the Internet for anyone with a computer to see.

The person who made this possible: his roommate Dharun Ravi.

College is supposed to be a chance for new experiences, to escape the immaturity and drama and high school, and to leave your invasive parents for an escape.. No more barging into your room, because "we own this house" and "as long as we pay the bills"... You're supposed to respect and trust the person you live with in a dorm room.

However, Tyler Clementi's right to privacy was taken away, and in that, his promising future was gone.

So the question stands, when did intimate relationships become entertainment to people besides the two involved?

From PostSecret...

Is this a relationship killer?



What is worse: A bad relationship with amazing sex, or an amazing relationship with bad sex?

Sex Permission Slip?

I haven't had a parent sign a permission slip since I believe my 8th grade field trip. Now some colleges across the country are asking students to sign their own "permission slips"... for sex.

The consent forms are designed to protect ladies, and yes the guys as well, from being taken advantage of in sexual situations.

Some colleges even implement policies on having consent forms, available for print on the website. Here is a link to a sample consent form:




I will delve more into the topic of sexual assault on campuses later, but check out these statistics:

-90% of all campus rapes occur under the influence of alcohol.
-1 in 4 women in college today has been the victim of rape, and nearly 90% of them knew their rapist.
-Every 21 hours, there is another rape on an American college campus.

With statistics like these, it's questionable whether these forms are a proper means of protection or a way to prevent a university lawsuit.

Besides the point of claiming that these forms are for safety, by signing these you are making any romantic situation into a contracted agreement.

Sponteneity is out the door and I think a partner pulling out one of those forms could definitely ruin any "moment"...

[Talking about] Sex: More is Better

SEX.

I bet that caught your attention.

While it's true that sex is plastered all over America through magazine covers, television, and shopping malls, many feel uncomfortable discussing the topic.

People may find themselves having conversations about sex with peers and those they are close to, but others find the discomfort in, for example, a middle school student hearing about sex from his or her 60-year-old teacher.

Not only is sex a topic that is generally viewed as uncomfortable, but it is also controversial.

Where is sex (the topic, not literally, although there is some argument as to where the act is) appropriate?

Everyone has his own opinion on that, but in all honesty, more communication about sex is better. That goes for parents to their kids, teachers to their students and partners to each other.

In this blog, I'll talk about all aspects of sex, and I hope to go beyond what you read in the monthly edition of Cosmo.